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Liliana Rowena’s Princess Code

Liliana’s Princess Code

💖 A Princess lives their life the way they’d like to see others live

💖 A Princess strives to be her truest self and inspire others to be more comfortable being theirselves

💖A Princess does not allow hatred to be harbored in her heart and does her best to help herself and her community be safe and cared for

💖 A Princess indulges in beautiful things that make me her happy regardless of what others think

💖 A Princess allows herself time to be dressed and groomed exactly as she would like to be

💖 A Princess gives a present to herself everyday, be it a cup of tea or something grand

💖 A Princess does not allow herself to be limited by the box she thinks others would like to have her in, or the box she may have made for herself.

💖 A Princess is responsible to herself and others in deeds, errands and funds, but not at the expense of her health

💖 A Princess shares her love and her smile with the world but not at the cost of her boundaries or her health

💖 A Princess strives to be the best she can be, beauty not perfection

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I was inspired to write this by the original code done by Princess Skye on the Princess Portal! Sadly it can only be accessed on the way back machine now, here I’ll share the original copied from the Lolita Princess blog, I’ll credit with the link below

The Princess Code

“[A] list of values and ideals we aspire to as Princesses… a collaborative effort between many other girls who have sent in their sentences. It belongs to all of us, and while we may not agree with every item on the list (and that’s okay!), it creates a picture of what being a Princess means.”

  • A Princess inspires others to follow their hopes and dreams through pursuing her own.
  • A Princess greets everyone with a welcoming smile, melting the hearts of friends and disarming her enemies.
  • A Princess has dignity, which protects her from the opinions and spite of ignorant people.
  • A Princess always looks beautiful, even when she is asleep.
  • A Princess aims for perfection in every step.
  • A Princess should be given fresh flowers everyday, even if she has to give them to herself.
  • A Princess grows in recognition and stature in proportion to how much she treats others as royalty.
  • A Princess reflect’s her inner beauty in her aesthetic choices.
  • A Princess goes to war against the violence of incivility with the weapons of etiquette and prodigal generosity.
  • A Princess lives each day from the heart, expressing herself freely and treasuring every moment.
  • A Princess has the right to spend her funds on beautiful things she does not need because beauty in itself is priceless.
  • A Princess should follow her heart and believe in her dreams, even if the whole world seems to be against her.
  • A Princess respects her environment and nurtures the beauty of nature.
  • A Princess is never too busy to give a kind word or smile where it is needed.
  • A Princess’s most precious jewel is Hope, which lights her darkest days and shows her the beauty in every soul she meets.”

https://thelolitaprincess.wordpress.com/the-princess-code/

I really like the original code quite a bit and took a lot of inspiration from it! I updated it and tried not to take anything word for word, in some ways I find the original too specific and too unattainable but I love how charming it is! Also in the blog post that I referenced it said that Princess Skye emphasized that every princess should have their own code, I encourage any lifestyle Lolita or jfashion that relates to being a princess write one of their own! It was really fun and let me reflect once again on what being a lifestyle Lolita means to me for more than just the clothes

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Out Shopping Today!

My fiance and I went to the mall today!! I’m happy to say I think I’ve finally filled out all the Kawaii accessories I need for the time being, I absolutely raided the Claire’s and hot topic and my chocolate bar earrings go great with my coord for today!

Needless to say I’ll be taking a month or two off but I now have so many options for my coords! It was such a great experience and I can’t wait for my comm’s virtual tea party!

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Compliment a Post | 365 Lifestyle Lolita Challenge

Doing this nowadays is easy as pie! I can go to a variety of social media websites and see coords! I actually kind of do this on a semi regular basis, I kind of live by the motto if you have something nice to say, say it! People don’t hear nearly enough positive things about themselves and I have found in my experience people love it when you genuinely compliment their style. It is validating to hear something they like and chose for themselves is something others might like too! I love scrolling on closet of frills, daily egl and Instagram for inspiration! I love seeing experimental and well established coords although my favorites are casual Lolita and 2010 sweet to see.

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Alterations and Lolita Fashion

I am so very happy that nowadays in Lolita fashion alterations are now being considered very acceptable and common place, back when I first started getting into egl it was not nearly as accepted or talked about.

I didn’t see much around that went against it but it certainly wasn’t a suggestion I saw people having and a lot of Kawaii channels on youtube would also have a fitness and weight loss element somewhere on their channel

As I think body positivity has gone more mainstream I think it seeped into Lolita fashion spaces for the better. I altered two of my favorite pieces in my closet the first one was a baby JSK that’s seams burst when I was wearing it. That gave me the courage to finally take it apart and add waist tie panels into the bust. The feeling of having the clothes I feel cutest in also fit me the best is amazing! One of my goals for the month of March is to get through my pile of skirts and dresses that need to be altered so that I can fully enjoy my wardrobe without the constant reminder that these clothes weren’t made for someone like me

I am not plus size by mainstream standards, I fall between a dress size 12-16 depending on the brand, that would put me into what I would consider mid size, but it makes even buying mainstream clothes difficult for me from time to time. When it comes to egl I without a shadow of a doubt would fall into the plus size category. However for years I would squeeze myself into pieces leaving red marks and making my body ache just to feel like I belonged, however every time my weight would inevitably fluctuate and a piece would refuse to zip I would feel an intense shame rise over me as if these clothes were meant to dictate what size I should be, not the other way around.

So when I finally upsized two of my pieces the sheer freedom and love I felt when I put them on was incredible. Due to liking the more solid control of hand stitching I had hand stitched these two pieces and it had felt like I had put love and self acceptance into every stitch. For the longest time I equated my health with size and weight due to my family’s history of diabetes but I realize now that every time I start focusing on my weight I throw health behaviors out the window! It’s still a struggle for me and I know I have a lot more work to do on my body image as time goes forward but I’m hoping by transforming the clothes I love to work for me I can start to have that work be just a little easier

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Local Events | 365 Lifestyle Lolita Challenge

This one is kind of sad given the current state of things, but to my surprise there’s an upcoming socially distanced winter festival! Sadly I’ll be working but it warms my heart to see that something will still be going on despite everything I just hope that everyone participating stays safe. Hopefully sledding and walking through a snow maze won’t pose too much of a risk

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Wear a Fragrance | 365 Lifestyle Lolita Challenge

I wore a perfume I’ve had for a long time today! I wore Juste une Baiser from Fragonard, I got it when I was in France in middle school on a people to people trip. It was really fun!! It’s a really light scent. I don’t normally wear perfume though, I like the idea of it but it’s an extra step in my routine that I just never remember. I’d love to try some sweeter perfumes in the future though. I really like the Strawberry Poundcake bath and body works lotion so there’s a chance I’d like a stronger scent

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Keep Your Posture in Check | 365 Lifestyle Lolita Challenge

This is something I am admittedly terrible at! I sit in weird and awkward ways and since I didn’t have work today this was a real challenge! I did my best but I wouldn’t say I succeeded, when I’m lounging at home I am a lot more found of sitting like a pretzel, although at work and events I like to think I have pretty decent posture it’s entirely situational for me personally