I had an absolutely wonderful day today! I went to the cat cafe earlier today and it was a blast!!! Also, I’ve been getting back into pinterest which is perfect for today’s challenge!
Category: lolita fashion
Doing this nowadays is easy as pie! I can go to a variety of social media websites and see coords! I actually kind of do this on a semi regular basis, I kind of live by the motto if you have something nice to say, say it! People don’t hear nearly enough positive things about themselves and I have found in my experience people love it when you genuinely compliment their style. It is validating to hear something they like and chose for themselves is something others might like too! I love scrolling on closet of frills, daily egl and Instagram for inspiration! I love seeing experimental and well established coords although my favorites are casual Lolita and 2010 sweet to see.
I actually haven’t been keeping up with new releases due to trying to avoid fomo and stick to my New Years resolution and not buying any main pieces this year. However I will share my dream dress!!! I really really want Spooky Macarons from Lady Sloth in Orange
I am so very happy that nowadays in Lolita fashion alterations are now being considered very acceptable and common place, back when I first started getting into egl it was not nearly as accepted or talked about.
I didn’t see much around that went against it but it certainly wasn’t a suggestion I saw people having and a lot of Kawaii channels on youtube would also have a fitness and weight loss element somewhere on their channel
As I think body positivity has gone more mainstream I think it seeped into Lolita fashion spaces for the better. I altered two of my favorite pieces in my closet the first one was a baby JSK that’s seams burst when I was wearing it. That gave me the courage to finally take it apart and add waist tie panels into the bust. The feeling of having the clothes I feel cutest in also fit me the best is amazing! One of my goals for the month of March is to get through my pile of skirts and dresses that need to be altered so that I can fully enjoy my wardrobe without the constant reminder that these clothes weren’t made for someone like me
I am not plus size by mainstream standards, I fall between a dress size 12-16 depending on the brand, that would put me into what I would consider mid size, but it makes even buying mainstream clothes difficult for me from time to time. When it comes to egl I without a shadow of a doubt would fall into the plus size category. However for years I would squeeze myself into pieces leaving red marks and making my body ache just to feel like I belonged, however every time my weight would inevitably fluctuate and a piece would refuse to zip I would feel an intense shame rise over me as if these clothes were meant to dictate what size I should be, not the other way around.
So when I finally upsized two of my pieces the sheer freedom and love I felt when I put them on was incredible. Due to liking the more solid control of hand stitching I had hand stitched these two pieces and it had felt like I had put love and self acceptance into every stitch. For the longest time I equated my health with size and weight due to my family’s history of diabetes but I realize now that every time I start focusing on my weight I throw health behaviors out the window! It’s still a struggle for me and I know I have a lot more work to do on my body image as time goes forward but I’m hoping by transforming the clothes I love to work for me I can start to have that work be just a little easier
This one is kind of sad given the current state of things, but to my surprise there’s an upcoming socially distanced winter festival! Sadly I’ll be working but it warms my heart to see that something will still be going on despite everything I just hope that everyone participating stays safe. Hopefully sledding and walking through a snow maze won’t pose too much of a risk
I wore a perfume I’ve had for a long time today! I wore Juste une Baiser from Fragonard, I got it when I was in France in middle school on a people to people trip. It was really fun!! It’s a really light scent. I don’t normally wear perfume though, I like the idea of it but it’s an extra step in my routine that I just never remember. I’d love to try some sweeter perfumes in the future though. I really like the Strawberry Poundcake bath and body works lotion so there’s a chance I’d like a stronger scent
This is something I am admittedly terrible at! I sit in weird and awkward ways and since I didn’t have work today this was a real challenge! I did my best but I wouldn’t say I succeeded, when I’m lounging at home I am a lot more found of sitting like a pretzel, although at work and events I like to think I have pretty decent posture it’s entirely situational for me personally
I love doing this on a regular basis! I love just going through the egl tags on Instagram and just finding specific things to love! I always appreciate those who find the little details in their dresses to highlight, I think it’s so sweet and wonderful when lolitas are able to have like a relationship with their dress in how carefully they coord it, one of the girls in my comm is always amazing and has a great attention to detail in all of her coords and it always amazes me! I’m actually pretty lazy as far as lolitas go I think, I wear it daily so I think I only put that amount of effort into it for tea parties and events! I think it’s also great to look at other coords for inspiration and new ways to try things! I love getting inspiration for simple straight hair hairstyles since I have pin straight hair and it takes forever to curl
Oooo!! I love the idea of a parlor game! I wonder if I can find one that would work well for a virtual meet, I’ll pop over to good ol google to find out more.
A Few 19th-Century Parlor Games to Amuse You While You’re Stuck at Home
So I found a link to some games!! Most of these work better in person but I think you could play The Mole over discord or zoom since all you have to do is ask people if they know if you’ve seen the mole but you have to close your eyes every time you answer. I think I might propose we play that next time there’s a virtual meet I can attend! Or at my birthday party!
