Mermaiding and Sweet Lolita Fashion!
🌻 Have a floral spa day!
🌻Try a floral coord!
🌻 Make a dandelion crown! there are many tutorials for different kinds online
🌻 Have a nature scavenger hunt!
🌻 Learn a new recipe!
🌻 Have a fashion show for yourself! Make some outfits you love and play some music
🌻Give yourself a small present! Like a new lipstick or chocolate bar
🌻 Give yellow a try with either makeup or an accessory
🌻 Doodle some sunflowers!
I have seen so many Lolitas join the fashion in quarantine! To welcome them all I thought I’d share some tips for your first IRL meet!
🎀 Research some recent releases from big brands there’s a good chance it will be a topic of discussion at some point during the meet and knowing what’s what will help you keep up!
🎀 Research upcoming events or what’s happening in the online comms, that may also be a topic of discussion and knowing a thing or two will help!
🎀 Don’t be afraid to discuss outside interest as well though! Sewing, gaming, baking and fashion history have a high chance of another member of your comm being into those things!
🎀 Participate in the online chat forum of your comm, be that Facebook messenger or discord. It will help you have specific interests and topics you can discuss when you finally meet in person, it will also help it feel less like it’s entirely brand new to you
🎀 Have an outfit you’re comfortable in, even if it’s not 100% finished if you’re a beginner make sure that you aren’t going to be constantly comparing yourself to the others in your comm and taking away from the social aspect
🎀 Look up the address of the meet ahead of time, and if you need a ride be sure to arrange transportation well before your meet
🎀 Don’t be intimidated by the chatting circles of long-standing members of your comm, they for the most part have just known each other for a few years. Don’t be afraid to jump in if a topic being spoken about interests you. Most comms love having new people! It’s what keeps the fashion going!
🎀 Enjoy yourself! And don’t pressure yourself too much, it’s pretty rare to have a social situation where a shared interest is built in! So have fun.
I added lights to my closet! I’ve been slowly but surely working to make my dream closet! I’ve moved more than just my Lolita wardrobe in there but it’s a work in progress!! I’m just really happy with these lights!!
🎀 Try using flat hairstyles underneath the wig like French braids instead of buns
🎀 Avoid using the elastic clasp in the back if you are going to be wearing your wig for a long time
🎀 Use wig glue instead of pins to secure your wig
🎀 Do a few test runs with your wig before the event you’re planning on using it for (meetup, convention, tea party, etc.)
🎀 Use a mesh wig cap, ( I tend to find that these have more give to them and don’t squeeze my head so tightly)
I seam ripped off the waist band (this is the love Nadia skirt from bodyline)
Since I had enough length in the skirt I cut one inch off the top and started making panels with them in order to not have to use a zipper anymore
This is still a work in progress I need to seam rip and align the final seam again but then I’ll update with a pic of me wearing the skirt!
After seeing the recent drama go down in the community it got me thinking about the differences between goths and lolitas. For context my mother is a 90s goth and I find it fascinating how the different groups interact with the world.
Lolita Fashion, at least in the US, is an Internet based subculture. We mostly find each other online and posting pictures and videos online is a major part of the subculture for many who participate. Most of us buy our clothes online and discovered Lolita Fashion through the Internet. I think it gives our fashion a certain perspective of the world sometimes for better or worse.
I think Lolita fashion being online makes it easier to connect quickly with our subculture and find others like ourselves if only virtually. However I think this can breed a rather harsh environment given the polish the modern Internet is known for. It isn’t in all spaces of course but it’s no secret within the community.
I think this can lead to some misunderstanding of our community when new people join as we take so much of our subculture for granted over time. One thing I can think of is concrit which has become integral to our community where outfits are seen as works of art and critiques the same way one might critique a painting in art class.
It’s important for us to keep in mind that when new people enter our spaces that they aren’t going to be familiar with our intrinsic rules and culture and although it can be exhausting I believe that patience can go such a long way to making our community a more accepting and inviting place.
Now your mileage may vary on this one but these are ways I have seen that have made it possible for me to wear Lolita to work with little issue
1.) Blouse and Skirt coords are your best friend
People seem to be a lot more accepting of blouse and skirt coords at work! I think it might be because it makes it a bit more casual and approachable
2.) Keep Headpieces small or opt to use hairstyles and small bows
This helps reign in how in your face the style can be while retaining the elegance
3.) Updo’s if you have long hair instantly make your coords look more professional
I find that updos are great and tend to keep better throughout the day anyways
4.) In more conservative office environments Classic Lolita is usually a safe bet
5.) Wear sensible shoes
Know what your job is and be sure to wear appropriate shoes, if you sit at a desk all day tea parties may be just fine, but if you have to get up a lot like I do you may want to stick to flats or well kept sneakers that match your outfit (my american is showing)
6.) Keep accessories minimal
Same idea as your hair in this instance your almost trying to find a cross between casual Lolita and office wear to wear to work, a bit more formal than wearing a cutsew and skirt but not OTT, earrings and a necklace are usually a safe bet
7.) Be grateful our fashion fits most dress codes!
So it depends on the taste in your office but thankfully a fashion that has you cover your shoulders and wear knee length skirts is not going to break any modesty codes it just may offend some sensibilities, obviously your work is more important than having to wear this fashion everyday but these are some tips that I’ve found that help!
I decided to customize my phone screen! I’ve been feeling really into sweet Lolita recently and I wanted my phone to reflect that, I already decodened the outside of my phone and wanted to reflect that on the inside!
I used fontsart and picsapp to make my background and change the icons!
It’s really interesting being a lifestyle Lolita these days, we’re definitely still around but not as much so anymore, it’s also harder to define as time goes on. I feel as if there is definitely a range of lifestyler but that mythic princess who wears her frills everyday is an inspiration to many of us. I wear Lolita about 3-5 times a week now but I’ve identified as a lifestyler for a long time and I think we go through cycles that are entirely normal for any interest!
Lolita Fashion is a demanding hobby whether you are a lifestyle lolita or not, and it can feel like to do it properly it has to be all consuming 100% of the time. This is simply not true and one of the reasons that I wrote in my princess code to not box yourself in. The idealized princess is an inspiration to my life but my clothes aren’t all that I am as a person, I am unique and dynamic and we should all share all parts of ourselves with the world if we see fit.
Lolita is a subculture through and through we have our own language and customs even. There are a lot of benefits to having such an extremely tight knit community, when there are outside threats lolitas band together in ways that is an honor to see. However one downside especially as someone who created Lolita fashion content online I see an encouragement to squash yourself down to one thing that I don’t see as much in other groups in Lolita fashion. If a creator wants to only share their lolita selves and keep the rest private that is entirely up to them! But for creators who create a lot of Lolita fashion content I often see some quiet judgement when they want to share other parts of themselves.
Also interests coming and going in cycles is entirely natural! I have been in lolita for over 5 years now and I’m on an interest upswing, I’ve been able to wear it more often than I don’t but sometimes I’m too tired and there’s nothing wrong with that. I also love sharing my love of cosplay and anime which is especially frowned upon in parts of the Lolita community even though for a lot of us we discovered Lolita fashion through those channels
I also feel a weird sense of a custodianship of our image that is unique to Lolita fashion. Rose Nocturnalia on YouTube made a great video about it. I think we need to learn to let go a little bit in this community of what the mainstream thinks of us. I get that we want our lives to be made easier but by the sheer nature of being alternative there are certain things mainstream people are never going to get and we shouldn’t turn on each other to try to be more accepted
I tried decodening for the first time on my phone case and I LOVE it!! It’s so cute and although somewhat intimidating incredibly easy to do as long as you have somewhat of a roll with it kind of attitude, I did my phone entirely with my collection of broken jewelry pieces and gems from the dollar store and it came out incredibly cute! Here’s the supplies I used to do mine
1.) Silicone Caulk
2.) dessert piping bag and star tip
3.) Phone Case
4.) Broken jewelry for cabochons
5.)Dollar store gems
I first used the silicone in the piping bag to make “frosting” dots all over the case after sanding it to rough it up enough for it to stick, then simply stuck my desired pieces in! I will say that with how thick I laid the silicone on it took about 2 days to dry so if you’re going for a similar look keep that in mind
Luna By The Lake With Cake 