My favorite dress is my angel of Music OP from Haenuli
Tag: lolita fashion
I have started reading books again for fun! It’s been amazing! It’s largely small novellas on prime reading but I’m really proud and happy that I’m able to do that again, I used to rip through 75+ books a year in middle school and as I got older it got more difficult. I used to love fantasy novels however I’m now more into domestic mystery books
So I decided to try one of the hairstyles in the video below!! It seemed a good cross of some of my interests!
I decided to try to do the heart buns!! They’re a bit messy since my hair is shorter but I think it’s cute!
Like many Lolitas I struggle with both overspending and mental health issues, it’s often a common theme in jokes in the community and I have talked about it before on my channel and in this blog but due to a recent bout of extreme overspending I thought it was due time I talk about it again.
I don’t want to be a hypocrite, I’ve talked about financial responsibility and Lolita fashion many times on my platforms and I always say I want to do better and I have overall gotten better but I’m still not where I want to be yet and sometimes that makes me feel fake when I want to have these discussions. Also my improvement can feel agonizingly slow or minute, the biggest example is that my last spending binge was on blouses not dresses and that genuinely felt like a win for me even though it caused me to be late on paying my car payment.
Admitting that so publicly feels embarrassing but in a space where overspending is normalized and sometimes I feel like it’s glamorized too, I think it’s important we talk about these things in a serious way from time to time. It’s okay to joke around to cope but I feel like there is a serious lack of looking at the actual consequences of overspending in this community which for many of us is linked to mental health issues.
My overspending happened when I had to take a break from going to therapy until my new health insurance benefits kick in, and although I was debating whether the hard work in counseling was worth starting again this recent spending binge answered it for me.
There’s nothing wrong with impulse buying a dress that you can actually afford from time to time but when it starts to seriously impact your life you need to take a step back and ask why you are actually doing this. It’s hard and uncomfortable and trust me I’d rather find a new way to transform into a frilly cupcake than to examine deep seated emotional issues (I’m writing this article just as much for me as for you) if you can afford it, I highly reccommend getting professional help and if you aren’t in a place where you can reaching out to a friend who won’t judge you but won’t let you bullshit them.
For this month I’m going to try not to buy any new items, I thought about trying a 6 month spending freeze but I think baby steps will suit me better. Once I start therapy again I’ll definitely be talking to my therapist about ways to avoid this
Jfashion is meant to be fun and a distraction but it’s escapism can easily crash back to reality if it starts to affect your financial health. Take care of yourselves. Have a wonderful night.
My comm has a discord that we use with a dream dress channel! I didn’t want to share anyone’s peesonal info so it was perfect! Below is some of the dresses on the channel, but by no means all of them
I want to write more on this blog this year! Far too many of my favorite blogs I read when I first joined lolita fashion have been disappearing and I feel traditional blogging is an important part of our subcultures history.
One of these blogs is what I am pulling from for many of my posts this year! I plan on participating in the 365 Lifestyle Lolita Challenge from Lace a la mode!
Without further ado!!! My goal for my wardrobe this year is to get some leg wear!! I have pretty well filled out getting blouses and shoes this year however I am still lacking quite a bit in the leg wear department. I have recently acquired cream and white knee socks but at the moment it is all that is workable in my wardrobe. I have a bad tendency of losing socks
I also want to get better at caring for my clothes overall, it’s something that I struggle a lot with. Hopefully that will make it so I lose less of my socks going forward, I use to have a pretty full collection of ankle socks before I lost the majority of them.
I have been extremely busy this month! I’ve been doing Vlogmas on my YouTube channel and have yet to miss a day! I’m really proud of keeping on top of it. I also just started a new job. It’s my first time doing overnights so I’m a little nervous. It’ll be good though.
Vlogmas has helped keep me occupied my first holiday season living on my own. It’s been a bizarre year. I was absolutely delighted when I saw that there was a vaccine being distributed earlier today. I know it’ll still be awhile before things can go back to normal but it feels like hope on the horizon
I’ve been keeping holiday spirits up decorating around the house and calling family and friends. I’m happy that I don’t usually feel alone. In some ways I feel more connected than ever and I am so grateful for that.
I had a little bit of a hard time with my life transition and stress ordered a lot of blouses. At least I got wardrobe staples this time 
After finishing watching a long slew of Princess Peachie videos, videos from when Pixielocks still wore Lolita Fashion, and reading ParfaitDoll through the wayback machine. I realized that I have been really embracing the 2010 sweet aesthetics that I adored when I first discovered Lolita Fashion on the internet when I was a teenager. I think clinging on to things that gave me comfort before can be helpful, especially when I had to catch myself looking at triggering content for two days before I realized I was doing it. Nostalgia seems the much healthier alternative, the bright colors and familiarity just warms my heart and emulating the idols who helped me get through some of the hardest times in my life in my existing memory has brought me more peace that I could have realized. I love seeing people embrace the things they love and I should be more careful not to deny myself of that.
In the past week I am delighted that I have finally figured out the perfect way to do heatless curls for my high pigtails, although I should get one of those classic twin tail wigs at some point. I also want to create more moodboards and allow myself to really dive into living the lolita lifestyle more. I had been really burned out from work and living in a pandemic but going wild and saying you know what a lace headdress and false lashes are okay for work if it’s a saturday has helped me remain excited about life when things seem really bleak. Lolita has always been this way for me but I think it’s exaggerated with everything going on.
Here’s the coord I wore to work today!
This is a really interesting topic for me to cover and I have really complex feelings about it. This may not be a popular take and I acknowledge that. I think that Lolita Fashion has a purist culture problem. In multiple ways, I have found that if you like to produce lolita fashion content online showing interest in other niches will make you less popular or so it seems. There are ways to go about it and there are certainly efamous lolitas who are known for multiple things but some topics seem fairly off limits if you present yourself in lolita fashion on the internet. One of these is showing interest in anime and manga, a lot of times if you are a lolita on the internet who expresses interest in anime and manga outside of specific shoujo manga it can feel restrictive.
I identify as a lifestyle lolita and enjoy incorporating lolita fashion into as much of my life as possible but the community pressure in internet spaces to have lolita fashion become an all consuming part of your life can be pretty intense. I don’t see this sentiment as much in public places online but one quick look into behind the bows or cgl and these sentiments are pretty plain to see. There seems to be this pressure for lolitas to be pure maidens that never have any faults even though that is the antithesis of the core message of the subculture. We’re meant to be a space where anyone can be a princess regardless of personality, interests, or body type. I have also noticed pressure for those who publicly wear lolita fashion to keep their image “pure” in the sexual sense and this is where my thoughts get complicated.
Where I appreciate respecting the core beginnings of the fashion as a way to desexualize feminine presentations I don’t think people can be expected to be that way 24/7. For example, I don’t think that it’s a good idea for individuals to do fetish things online while wearing lolita or to expose minors to kink in fashion spaces. However, if people want to use their account to talk about anime characters they like or talk about celebrities they’re attracted to they shouldn’t be shamed for that. Wearing Lolita Fashion doesn’t dictate someone’s personality and there shouldn’t be the expectation that it should. No one owes you being your ideal maiden. Most people wear lolita fashion for themselves, I know I do. I choose to reach for being like what I consider to be an ideal princess because it makes me happy. Nobody owes me that and I don’t owe that to you. Let’s do what makes us happy as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone.
In conclusion, do what you want, but don’t expose minors to explicit material or the general public who hasn’t consented. That’s it. You want to tell me all about your favorite video games while wearing lolita fashion, go for it! Tell me about why you think moths are neat, go for it! Give me the entire history of the horror genre, I’d love to find out! Enjoy your fashion, but don’t restrict yourself.
It’s that time of year where the spooky season is here and we celebrate spirits and death. You may be considering doing a fashion or cosplay shoot in a cemetery. There seems to be varied opinions on whether you should do this at all. It is up to your own discretion whether or not you wish to participate in this activity. Here are some tips for respectfully conducting filming or a photoshoot in a graveyard.
- Don’t sit, lean, or prop up equipment on any gravestones or monuments
- If there is a funeral going on or a large amount of mourners that day, reschedule.
- Remove or blur out any names that are visible on graves in the shot. Avoid shooting near newer gravestones
- Leave the area better than you arrived, take some time to pick up any litter you may see and be sure not to damage anything that was already there.
- If you are asked by anyone who is there at the time to stop what you are doing and leave, do not argue and respect their wishes. This is first and foremost a place to mourn.
- Be prepared for any photos you use to potentially be controversial if you post to social media, be prepared for that and be able to respond to concerns with grace.
- Don’t take anything from the cemetery
- Be sure you know the hours that it is open for visitors and only go during those hours
- Have fun and be safe!
Luna By The Lake With Cake 