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The Cycles of Being a Lifestyle Lolita

It’s really interesting being a lifestyle Lolita these days, we’re definitely still around but not as much so anymore, it’s also harder to define as time goes on. I feel as if there is definitely a range of lifestyler but that mythic princess who wears her frills everyday is an inspiration to many of us. I wear Lolita about 3-5 times a week now but I’ve identified as a lifestyler for a long time and I think we go through cycles that are entirely normal for any interest!

Lolita Fashion is a demanding hobby whether you are a lifestyle lolita or not, and it can feel like to do it properly it has to be all consuming 100% of the time. This is simply not true and one of the reasons that I wrote in my princess code to not box yourself in. The idealized princess is an inspiration to my life but my clothes aren’t all that I am as a person, I am unique and dynamic and we should all share all parts of ourselves with the world if we see fit.

Lolita is a subculture through and through we have our own language and customs even. There are a lot of benefits to having such an extremely tight knit community, when there are outside threats lolitas band together in ways that is an honor to see. However one downside especially as someone who created Lolita fashion content online I see an encouragement to squash yourself down to one thing that I don’t see as much in other groups in Lolita fashion. If a creator wants to only share their lolita selves and keep the rest private that is entirely up to them! But for creators who create a lot of Lolita fashion content I often see some quiet judgement when they want to share other parts of themselves.

Also interests coming and going in cycles is entirely natural! I have been in lolita for over 5 years now and I’m on an interest upswing, I’ve been able to wear it more often than I don’t but sometimes I’m too tired and there’s nothing wrong with that. I also love sharing my love of cosplay and anime which is especially frowned upon in parts of the Lolita community even though for a lot of us we discovered Lolita fashion through those channels

I also feel a weird sense of a custodianship of our image that is unique to Lolita fashion. Rose Nocturnalia on YouTube made a great video about it. I think we need to learn to let go a little bit in this community of what the mainstream thinks of us. I get that we want our lives to be made easier but by the sheer nature of being alternative there are certain things mainstream people are never going to get and we shouldn’t turn on each other to try to be more accepted

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Liliana Rowena’s Princess Code

Liliana’s Princess Code

💖 A Princess lives their life the way they’d like to see others live

💖 A Princess strives to be her truest self and inspire others to be more comfortable being theirselves

💖A Princess does not allow hatred to be harbored in her heart and does her best to help herself and her community be safe and cared for

💖 A Princess indulges in beautiful things that make me her happy regardless of what others think

💖 A Princess allows herself time to be dressed and groomed exactly as she would like to be

💖 A Princess gives a present to herself everyday, be it a cup of tea or something grand

💖 A Princess does not allow herself to be limited by the box she thinks others would like to have her in, or the box she may have made for herself.

💖 A Princess is responsible to herself and others in deeds, errands and funds, but not at the expense of her health

💖 A Princess shares her love and her smile with the world but not at the cost of her boundaries or her health

💖 A Princess strives to be the best she can be, beauty not perfection

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I was inspired to write this by the original code done by Princess Skye on the Princess Portal! Sadly it can only be accessed on the way back machine now, here I’ll share the original copied from the Lolita Princess blog, I’ll credit with the link below

The Princess Code

“[A] list of values and ideals we aspire to as Princesses… a collaborative effort between many other girls who have sent in their sentences. It belongs to all of us, and while we may not agree with every item on the list (and that’s okay!), it creates a picture of what being a Princess means.”

  • A Princess inspires others to follow their hopes and dreams through pursuing her own.
  • A Princess greets everyone with a welcoming smile, melting the hearts of friends and disarming her enemies.
  • A Princess has dignity, which protects her from the opinions and spite of ignorant people.
  • A Princess always looks beautiful, even when she is asleep.
  • A Princess aims for perfection in every step.
  • A Princess should be given fresh flowers everyday, even if she has to give them to herself.
  • A Princess grows in recognition and stature in proportion to how much she treats others as royalty.
  • A Princess reflect’s her inner beauty in her aesthetic choices.
  • A Princess goes to war against the violence of incivility with the weapons of etiquette and prodigal generosity.
  • A Princess lives each day from the heart, expressing herself freely and treasuring every moment.
  • A Princess has the right to spend her funds on beautiful things she does not need because beauty in itself is priceless.
  • A Princess should follow her heart and believe in her dreams, even if the whole world seems to be against her.
  • A Princess respects her environment and nurtures the beauty of nature.
  • A Princess is never too busy to give a kind word or smile where it is needed.
  • A Princess’s most precious jewel is Hope, which lights her darkest days and shows her the beauty in every soul she meets.”

https://thelolitaprincess.wordpress.com/the-princess-code/

I really like the original code quite a bit and took a lot of inspiration from it! I updated it and tried not to take anything word for word, in some ways I find the original too specific and too unattainable but I love how charming it is! Also in the blog post that I referenced it said that Princess Skye emphasized that every princess should have their own code, I encourage any lifestyle Lolita or jfashion that relates to being a princess write one of their own! It was really fun and let me reflect once again on what being a lifestyle Lolita means to me for more than just the clothes

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Alterations and Lolita Fashion

I am so very happy that nowadays in Lolita fashion alterations are now being considered very acceptable and common place, back when I first started getting into egl it was not nearly as accepted or talked about.

I didn’t see much around that went against it but it certainly wasn’t a suggestion I saw people having and a lot of Kawaii channels on youtube would also have a fitness and weight loss element somewhere on their channel

As I think body positivity has gone more mainstream I think it seeped into Lolita fashion spaces for the better. I altered two of my favorite pieces in my closet the first one was a baby JSK that’s seams burst when I was wearing it. That gave me the courage to finally take it apart and add waist tie panels into the bust. The feeling of having the clothes I feel cutest in also fit me the best is amazing! One of my goals for the month of March is to get through my pile of skirts and dresses that need to be altered so that I can fully enjoy my wardrobe without the constant reminder that these clothes weren’t made for someone like me

I am not plus size by mainstream standards, I fall between a dress size 12-16 depending on the brand, that would put me into what I would consider mid size, but it makes even buying mainstream clothes difficult for me from time to time. When it comes to egl I without a shadow of a doubt would fall into the plus size category. However for years I would squeeze myself into pieces leaving red marks and making my body ache just to feel like I belonged, however every time my weight would inevitably fluctuate and a piece would refuse to zip I would feel an intense shame rise over me as if these clothes were meant to dictate what size I should be, not the other way around.

So when I finally upsized two of my pieces the sheer freedom and love I felt when I put them on was incredible. Due to liking the more solid control of hand stitching I had hand stitched these two pieces and it had felt like I had put love and self acceptance into every stitch. For the longest time I equated my health with size and weight due to my family’s history of diabetes but I realize now that every time I start focusing on my weight I throw health behaviors out the window! It’s still a struggle for me and I know I have a lot more work to do on my body image as time goes forward but I’m hoping by transforming the clothes I love to work for me I can start to have that work be just a little easier

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My Favorite Lolita Brand | 365 Lifestyle Lolita Challenge

My favorite brand is Fanplusfriend! I was too tired to put in a full coord today as I was helping my mom move into her new house today, I wore this was a simple black skirt,

FanPlusFriend is the very first Lolita fashion brand I ever bought from!!! I got my TARDIS skirt from there and by the time I saved up enough money they were out of my size, but when I messaged them they made one more skirt for me, sadly I need to get the zipper fixed as it broke due to being well loved.

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Dress Releases when I first Started EGL | 365 Lifestyle Lolita Challenge

So I used the very scientific method of googling brand names with the year, I mainly found Angelic Pretty

It’s honestly really interesting to see these dresses! When I first got into Lolita Fashion I wasn’t really interested in the big brands that much, my first Lolita fashion love was FanPlusFriend and it still stands as my favorite brand till this day. I wasn’t super aware of these specific dresses when I joined the fashion

It was also difficult to pinpoint when I joined the fashion but I decided to go with when I got my first piece which was 2015, I joined my local comm in late 2016

I find it interesting that I didn’t actually pay these dresses much mind at the time given the fact almost all of the people I was following at the time we’re really into 2010s sweet and my wardrobe just ended up being quite gothic to start with. I now really enjoy all the sub styles but seem to gravitate towards sweet the most

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Lolita Valentine’s! | 365 Lifestyle Lolita Challenge

For this post I am going to share some of the amazing content creators I have discovered and have been loving recently!

First off is Kimbuucha on YouTube! Her channel is highly underrated she has wonderfully high production value and a charming no nonsense attitude if you have never seen her work I highly recommend you go check her out! I connected with her through both of us doing Vlogmas last year!

Secondly is the Stitchess! She isn’t strictly an egl creator but brings a much needed voice about sustainability and practicality to the Lolita fashion sphere on YouTube along with several videos well researched on the history of a variety of Kawaii subcultures and styles

Next is Sweetie Sprout! She is absolutely adorable and always has her makeup on point and recently put out an extremely helpful tutorial on how to tie bows properly

I also had recently found Pearlie Cute who’s content I enjoy greatly! I appreciate her clearly spoken and well worded video with her own views on the fashion and community

Cupcake Kamisama has also made an incredibly helpful series on her channel where she talks about the more in depth aspects of coording to help take your coords to the next level which I highly reccommend

This is only a handful of the wonderful Lolita fashion YouTubers you can find! What’s awesome is all of the YouTubers I have listed are currently active and worth checking out! Happy Valentine’s!

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Performance Schedule Local Ballet | 365 Lifestyle Lolita Challenge

This challenge is a bit sad giving everything going on but I’ll take a look. They don’t have any performances scheduled yet but it says that they still do plan to dance this summer! Ballet Vermont is very unique in that they do ballet barefoot outside! I’ll keep an eye on when they do post their performance schedule and maybe try to catch one!