Mermaiding and Sweet Lolita Fashion!
My fiance and I went to the mall today!! I’m happy to say I think I’ve finally filled out all the Kawaii accessories I need for the time being, I absolutely raided the Claire’s and hot topic and my chocolate bar earrings go great with my coord for today!
Needless to say I’ll be taking a month or two off but I now have so many options for my coords! It was such a great experience and I can’t wait for my comm’s virtual tea party!
This will be the second time I will decide to end the lifestyle Lolita challenge, I think I have learned such a rigidly structured challenge is not for me, I wanted to motivate myself to traditionally blog more but what I ended up with was complete overwhelm and ignoring this blog,
I think I will still refer to the list for prompts but use it more as a list of prompts than a list of hard and fast must blog this on this day, it’s such a fun idea! And I would love to see a blogger with more spoons regularly at their disposal try it, I don’t feel too bad ending the challenge again considering the original creator wasn’t able to complete it! I’m hoping to blog daily but on a more thing by thing I want to talk about basis, for example showing you guys my completed purse kit I made! I’m really excited about it and I don’t think I’ve ever done a what’s in my bag before.
I’ve got emergency makeup for retouches, lip balm, a decoden mirror from a comm member, hairbrush and deodorant! It’s a nice little kit to have and helps me feel put together more of the time! I’ve only had it for a week but I really enjoy just having it in my bag
I’m trying to find small ways to make my life easier recently and this has made a bigger difference than I thought it would
Ah, that thing everyone and their mother has been talking about but it’s 100% real, last night my fiancé found a cockroach in our apartment and that was kind of the last straw for me. It’s been a struggle just to keep up with basic tasks and although our house isn’t terrible the fact that I keep forgetting to take the trash out resulted in that felt awful! It’s so tempting and easy to try and beat myself up for that, I’ll admit it. I cried.
This whole year has been so emotionally overwhelming and I am working a lot in therapy on just personal stuff right now but having the pandemic be an entire year for me in about a week I’ve been really feeling the emotional effects, I am blessed to still have a job and be rather financially stable something that I had never dreamed of being able to say at 23. (I guess college is good for something) however keeping up with self-care and housework has felt near impossible especially with my partner also feeling burned out.
I want to try to look at myself with compassion and ask what I need to do what I have to maintain my home and that is a self compassionate instinct that I am so grateful for but the pull of an old familiar shame tugs on me from time to time. I then can something feel shame about the shame, growing up neurodivergent can make care tasks a major source of guilt which just worsens the ability to keep up with it because it’s no longer just about the dishes it’s about the guilt about the dishes and it just spirals.
So I’m making a plan of action and trying to find new ways to restock my spoons in this time that steals so many of them, I’ll try to find what gives me energy and go from there. I’m hoping to make a more solid system with my cutie when I get home and to block out more rest times for myself
I had an absolutely wonderful day today! I went to the cat cafe earlier today and it was a blast!!! Also, I’ve been getting back into pinterest which is perfect for today’s challenge!
Doing this nowadays is easy as pie! I can go to a variety of social media websites and see coords! I actually kind of do this on a semi regular basis, I kind of live by the motto if you have something nice to say, say it! People don’t hear nearly enough positive things about themselves and I have found in my experience people love it when you genuinely compliment their style. It is validating to hear something they like and chose for themselves is something others might like too! I love scrolling on closet of frills, daily egl and Instagram for inspiration! I love seeing experimental and well established coords although my favorites are casual Lolita and 2010 sweet to see.
I actually haven’t been keeping up with new releases due to trying to avoid fomo and stick to my New Years resolution and not buying any main pieces this year. However I will share my dream dress!!! I really really want Spooky Macarons from Lady Sloth in Orange
I am so very happy that nowadays in Lolita fashion alterations are now being considered very acceptable and common place, back when I first started getting into egl it was not nearly as accepted or talked about.
I didn’t see much around that went against it but it certainly wasn’t a suggestion I saw people having and a lot of Kawaii channels on youtube would also have a fitness and weight loss element somewhere on their channel
As I think body positivity has gone more mainstream I think it seeped into Lolita fashion spaces for the better. I altered two of my favorite pieces in my closet the first one was a baby JSK that’s seams burst when I was wearing it. That gave me the courage to finally take it apart and add waist tie panels into the bust. The feeling of having the clothes I feel cutest in also fit me the best is amazing! One of my goals for the month of March is to get through my pile of skirts and dresses that need to be altered so that I can fully enjoy my wardrobe without the constant reminder that these clothes weren’t made for someone like me
I am not plus size by mainstream standards, I fall between a dress size 12-16 depending on the brand, that would put me into what I would consider mid size, but it makes even buying mainstream clothes difficult for me from time to time. When it comes to egl I without a shadow of a doubt would fall into the plus size category. However for years I would squeeze myself into pieces leaving red marks and making my body ache just to feel like I belonged, however every time my weight would inevitably fluctuate and a piece would refuse to zip I would feel an intense shame rise over me as if these clothes were meant to dictate what size I should be, not the other way around.
So when I finally upsized two of my pieces the sheer freedom and love I felt when I put them on was incredible. Due to liking the more solid control of hand stitching I had hand stitched these two pieces and it had felt like I had put love and self acceptance into every stitch. For the longest time I equated my health with size and weight due to my family’s history of diabetes but I realize now that every time I start focusing on my weight I throw health behaviors out the window! It’s still a struggle for me and I know I have a lot more work to do on my body image as time goes forward but I’m hoping by transforming the clothes I love to work for me I can start to have that work be just a little easier
This one is kind of sad given the current state of things, but to my surprise there’s an upcoming socially distanced winter festival! Sadly I’ll be working but it warms my heart to see that something will still be going on despite everything I just hope that everyone participating stays safe. Hopefully sledding and walking through a snow maze won’t pose too much of a risk
I wore a perfume I’ve had for a long time today! I wore Juste une Baiser from Fragonard, I got it when I was in France in middle school on a people to people trip. It was really fun!! It’s a really light scent. I don’t normally wear perfume though, I like the idea of it but it’s an extra step in my routine that I just never remember. I’d love to try some sweeter perfumes in the future though. I really like the Strawberry Poundcake bath and body works lotion so there’s a chance I’d like a stronger scent
